I had an abortion when I was 19 and I had my second abortion when I was 25. I'm not proud of it and I don't talk about it and I try to forget about it but it's almost always on my mind. It doesn't help that my first abortion was just a few days before Halloween because every Halloween has been a reminder of what I did (by the way I am writing this on October 25th).
My mom was helpful with both abortions and I am thankful to have such a wonderful mother who was supportive of my choice. It was a few months after my first abortion when my mom told me that she aborted a pregnancy a year after I was born, and it really frightened her on what my reaction was going to be, but all I did was give her a hug.
My sister who is five years younger than me didn't know about my first abortion originally but she knew about my second abortion and that was when I told her about my first. It was maybe two years later when my sister needed an abortion and she called me for support, and it was beautiful on how we become closer sisters over something that was so challenging for her.
I married my husband when I was 27 years old, July 3, 2017. I could write a nice lovely book about him if I wanted to but I'll just say that he is a lovely man. He wasn't in my life when I had my abortions and I never told him about them because I didn't see the need, although there were times where I came close to telling him.
Our daughter was born on October 4th 2018, and I could probably write a nice lovely book about her as well.
Early in 2020 was when we started talking about having a second child, and we were working on that, but then this crazy pandemic happened and the economy took a hit and everything started going nuts. And we should have had a talk about maybe delaying our second child, but during that time we really weren't affected with what was going on and we all believed that everything would be good in the long run.
April 25th was the day that we knew we were pregnant, and on May 17th is when we found out that I would be laid off from my job. What can I say? Words cannot express how I felt.
My husband and I had some really tough conversations about what we were going to do, no yelling or screaming, just some very emotional back and forth. And it wasn't just about our second pregnancy, it was the rent and the vehicles and the daycare and the food on the table. During one of these talks was when I told him about my two abortions, and he was surprised and a bit shocked but he was understanding. I knew abortion was going to be our best option and I knew that telling him about this would let him know that I was comfortable with this choice. This was not an easy decision, and trust me when I say that we both lost 5 years of our life expectancy simply by talking about this option, but it was the world around us that made the decision for us.
None of our family or friends knew about this pregnancy, I think we were going to surprise everybody in the next week or two, and I know we had some great ideas, but thankfully those ideas never happened. But I did tell my mom and my sister that we were going to have an abortion and both of them were very supportive with our decision.
Finding an appointment at a clinic within the next two weeks was impossible. The restrictions from this pandemic were probably not helping, but I know it was the thousands of women like me who were being forced to make a difficult decision all at the same time. I knew about the abortion pill but I was really close to the 10 week mark already and I knew this wasn't something I wanted to do.
The restrictions on staying home helped us out immensely! I was starting to show, and I was going through the pain of being pregnant, but staying at home kept everybody from knowing about this. My mom wanted to come over and see how I was doing but I told her I was fine and please don't come over, and she knew why.
My third abortion was on June 26th. My husband stayed home as it was uncomfortable enough for him already, but my sister traveled 7 hours to be with me and planned on staying with me for the week. I was 12 weeks 1 day pregnant, and I told my brain that 12 was better than 13 or 14, but I knew that 12 was a bit insane. I was becoming thankful that I wasn't laid off a week or two later because I'm not sure if we would have made the same choice. It was a tough and emotional and stressful day for me, and I had my second thoughts about going through with this, but everybody kept me on track and supported me, When it was all over I called my husband and told him that it was done, and we had a good long cry, but we both knew it was the right choice.
On July 10th my husband was nearly laid off but a couple days later they changed his hours from roughly 45 hours a week to the minimum 32. I told my husband that I was happy we made the choice when we did, and he agreed.
None of this is easy but nothing in life is easy. Abortion is something that I wish I never had to choose but I am thankful that our country gives us women the option on making a choice. One day I hope that my husband and I can have our second child, but only when we are ready. My choice is to take care of me and the family that I have, nothing else matters.
- Kimberly
My mom was helpful with both abortions and I am thankful to have such a wonderful mother who was supportive of my choice. It was a few months after my first abortion when my mom told me that she aborted a pregnancy a year after I was born, and it really frightened her on what my reaction was going to be, but all I did was give her a hug.
My sister who is five years younger than me didn't know about my first abortion originally but she knew about my second abortion and that was when I told her about my first. It was maybe two years later when my sister needed an abortion and she called me for support, and it was beautiful on how we become closer sisters over something that was so challenging for her.
I married my husband when I was 27 years old, July 3, 2017. I could write a nice lovely book about him if I wanted to but I'll just say that he is a lovely man. He wasn't in my life when I had my abortions and I never told him about them because I didn't see the need, although there were times where I came close to telling him.
Our daughter was born on October 4th 2018, and I could probably write a nice lovely book about her as well.
Early in 2020 was when we started talking about having a second child, and we were working on that, but then this crazy pandemic happened and the economy took a hit and everything started going nuts. And we should have had a talk about maybe delaying our second child, but during that time we really weren't affected with what was going on and we all believed that everything would be good in the long run.
April 25th was the day that we knew we were pregnant, and on May 17th is when we found out that I would be laid off from my job. What can I say? Words cannot express how I felt.
My husband and I had some really tough conversations about what we were going to do, no yelling or screaming, just some very emotional back and forth. And it wasn't just about our second pregnancy, it was the rent and the vehicles and the daycare and the food on the table. During one of these talks was when I told him about my two abortions, and he was surprised and a bit shocked but he was understanding. I knew abortion was going to be our best option and I knew that telling him about this would let him know that I was comfortable with this choice. This was not an easy decision, and trust me when I say that we both lost 5 years of our life expectancy simply by talking about this option, but it was the world around us that made the decision for us.
None of our family or friends knew about this pregnancy, I think we were going to surprise everybody in the next week or two, and I know we had some great ideas, but thankfully those ideas never happened. But I did tell my mom and my sister that we were going to have an abortion and both of them were very supportive with our decision.
Finding an appointment at a clinic within the next two weeks was impossible. The restrictions from this pandemic were probably not helping, but I know it was the thousands of women like me who were being forced to make a difficult decision all at the same time. I knew about the abortion pill but I was really close to the 10 week mark already and I knew this wasn't something I wanted to do.
The restrictions on staying home helped us out immensely! I was starting to show, and I was going through the pain of being pregnant, but staying at home kept everybody from knowing about this. My mom wanted to come over and see how I was doing but I told her I was fine and please don't come over, and she knew why.
My third abortion was on June 26th. My husband stayed home as it was uncomfortable enough for him already, but my sister traveled 7 hours to be with me and planned on staying with me for the week. I was 12 weeks 1 day pregnant, and I told my brain that 12 was better than 13 or 14, but I knew that 12 was a bit insane. I was becoming thankful that I wasn't laid off a week or two later because I'm not sure if we would have made the same choice. It was a tough and emotional and stressful day for me, and I had my second thoughts about going through with this, but everybody kept me on track and supported me, When it was all over I called my husband and told him that it was done, and we had a good long cry, but we both knew it was the right choice.
On July 10th my husband was nearly laid off but a couple days later they changed his hours from roughly 45 hours a week to the minimum 32. I told my husband that I was happy we made the choice when we did, and he agreed.
None of this is easy but nothing in life is easy. Abortion is something that I wish I never had to choose but I am thankful that our country gives us women the option on making a choice. One day I hope that my husband and I can have our second child, but only when we are ready. My choice is to take care of me and the family that I have, nothing else matters.
- Kimberly
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